Many people find forgiveness difficult — especially when they’ve been deeply hurt. Yet in the Gospels, Jesus speaks again and again about forgiveness, not as a suggestion but as a way of life rooted in love. His words reveal that forgiveness is not only something we receive from God but something we must also give to others.
When I reflect on Jesus’ teachings, I often think of Peter’s question: “Lord, how many times must I forgive my brother if he sins against me? Up to seven times?” (Matthew 18:21). Jesus’ answer is stunning: “Not seven times, but seventy times seven.” He wasn’t giving a number to count — He was showing that forgiveness must be limitless, flowing from a heart transformed by grace. True forgiveness imitates God’s own mercy, which never runs out.
In the Lord’s Prayer, Jesus ties our forgiveness to the forgiveness we extend to others: “Forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.” Every time we pray those words, we are invited to let go of resentment and open our hearts to the mercy we ourselves depend upon. This is not easy. But Jesus shows us that forgiving others is the path to freedom, peace, and healing.
On the Cross, Jesus gives the greatest example of all. As He hangs in agony, He prays for those who crucified Him: “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” (Luke 23:34). Even in His suffering, His love remains stronger than hatred. This moment reveals the depth of divine forgiveness — a love that does not wait for apologies but gives itself freely. When we forgive, we share in that same love.
The Church teaches that forgiveness is an act of the will — a decision to release the debt someone owes us and entrust it to God’s justice and mercy. It does not mean pretending that evil never happened, but rather choosing not to let it poison our hearts. Forgiveness allows God to heal what we cannot heal on our own. It is a process, sometimes slow and painful, but always guided by grace.
When you struggle to forgive, remember that Jesus never asks you to do it alone. He gives you His Spirit — the very power of divine mercy — to soften your heart. Start with prayer. Ask the Lord to help you want to forgive, even if you are not ready yet. Over time, grace works quietly, and what once felt impossible becomes a gift you can finally give.
May we learn to forgive as Christ forgives — freely, tenderly, and without measure. In that mercy, we find the freedom of the children of God.
— Fr. John Matthew, for Christian Way
